Friday, March 26, 2021
Faces of pretence
Thursday, March 11, 2021
Kind, generous, talented and useless+inefficient
Everyone who has anything nice to say about me says how kind, generous and talented I am. How does that help or matter if I'm absolutely shyte at my job? People have only kept me because I'm affable and I give no trouble.
I haven't completed tasks in the last one year. Everyone's doing well with the processes and organisational things but me. What purpose is my niceness going to serve? It's the most unproductive crap. I can only bring relief to people so that they do well in their careers. I will still lag behind and keep anyone I co-work with behind with me. How long can they drag my weight? C is already struggling with their own issues and I am just being a burden. They end up doing all my tasks, while I sit there useless, with no purpose at all.
I don't want colleagues to call me kind or sweet or funny. I hope some day they will say I am so efficient and good at my work. But I don't think they ever will have this opportunity. How can I be so dense? How can I not break these things down?
Sunday, March 7, 2021
I cannot not help J
Friday, March 5, 2021
What am I doing?
Thursday, March 4, 2021
Broke down again today
Wednesday, March 3, 2021
Numb/AK
I'm back, to write some more. Because I'd rather do it here than tell anyone such a tragic thing.
Can't believe AK is no more. Not that we stayed in touch actively. I always wondered what was up with him after reading his social media posts. And we did interact a fair bit when I wrote for him for the magazine. I had a nagging doubt that he took his own life. His posts were always dark and strange but back then, I was still so reticent of starting a conversation with anyone. I didn't know how to deal with what they'd have to tell me.
I don't say that it would have helped him if we spoke. Don't I know that it doesn't. But it's quite numbing, honestly. Especially when HS told me that he died by suicide and had stopped taking medication for BPD. Frankly, I'm a bit scared. Can't help thinking about the night I was coming back from Hoppipola. I was so low and dejected. And out of nowhere, I had this thought, 'What's the point in going on if this is how one feels all the time?' There's no purpose, no joy, the heart and the mind don't cooperate. It feels so hollow. And meaningless.
Right now, I just keep reminding myself that it's too soon. I have been on a treatment only for a couple of months and it takes times to have positive effects.
All the same, I feel like I'm climbing up a muddy slope in rain. The slush keeps making one slip down. During treks, there's usually someone more efficient you can rely on, who will give you a hand. And you know you will make it there alright.
Stop talking
Ugh. It was so easy to keep things to myself earlier. All these years, no one really knew what I was thinking or going through or feeling. But now I have laid it all open. I think I regret it. It was such an impulsive thing to do. And now that I have started, I cannot stop. I'm talking, talking, talking all the time. With so many people. Too many people know me now. And I can't tell why I dislike that so much. I am fond of all of them. They are all so good to me and smart, awesome people. Why do I still feel guilty about opening up? It doesn't make sense. But nothing does these days.
I feel like such an attention-whore. Every day I think I will only pour my heart out either here or on the WhatsApp self-chat but I end up chatting with so many friends.
I also have this new thing creeping up. I'm a chill, fun person when I'm just getting to know someone. And it feels natural; like, I don't pretend to be as such. But once they come closer, out comes my real sad fucking self. I let my guard down. I feel I'm becoming thoughtless. My issues are no one's burden to bear. Why should I be saddling them with it? Making them worry about me and my well-being. It's an added task, being there for me, making sure I am okay when everyone has their own demons to deal with.
I'm going to try harder till I reach the same point again. To deal with my crap on my own. For that, I really need to stop talking so much first!